Talking Straight Trash

There was a four month waiting list to spend some alone time with the man who was, undoubtedly, sent to change my life. I had full certainty that the words that were waiting to be spoken would surely shoot me to the upper echelon of understanding and I’d live my life with this full wisdom and excellence. That date was marked on my calendar and every day I glanced towards it in anticipation of… shoot… I didn’t know, but I lived in expectance of it.

The day finally arrived and I got there early. An assistant led me to his office where I waited… and waited. He was late five minutes… ten minutes… and eventually I fell asleep. I woke up about 30 minutes later to see him at his desk working. He greets me with a smile and I am devastated. I have been waiting four months for this meeting I express! I have squandered away my time and for what… A NAP!! I am seconds away from tears and he calmly replies “You obviously needed rest annnnnd there’s no reason for you to be here – Because you take out your trash.” Five minutes later my time was up and I headed out.

I had no understanding of just how impactful those five minutes were to me.

My roommates and I have a couple of cute bathroom trash cans along with the standard kitchen trash can. Like most people, trash is collected every week. We place it into a compactor and our trash is mysteriously whisked away to a faraway place that I know not of.

One thing that I have recognized in my years of adulthood is that the majority of us do not take out our “trash” regularly. Trash in and of itself is not a bad thing. It is a byproduct of living life. Trash is an indication that life is being lived and things are being consumed. That’s actually a good sign. It only becomes bad when we don’t have a place to put it. You wouldn’t believe how much spiritual, emotional, relational, and psychological trash builds up in us.

When your trash is not taken out regularly, toxins build up and start to fill your environment with scents that not even a skunk would love. The stench of frustration, bitterness, fear, lust, pride, greed, rebellion, and unbelief (to name a few) permeate your home, spiritual life, relationships, and workplace in ways that begin to make you and those around you sick. Have you ever walked into someone’s house and noticed that it smelled terribly yet they were accustomed to it so they didn’t notice and YOU ended up with a headache… same thing here… so I say, TAKE OUT YOUR TRASH!

Most people don’t take out their REAL trash for two reasons: 1. Trust 2. Perception. Yep. That’s it. Who can I trust? Will you still see me the same? Will you still respect me? Will it stay between us? The enemy of ourselves would love to make you believe the lie that if you share your heart with people that they will break your heart. Establishing trust involves risk. There is no way around it. But what alternative do you have? If you don’t take out your trash, your trash will take you out. You will become toxic.

My solution: Dare to deepen the relationship you have with your spouse, family member, dear friend or mentor. I take out my trash weekly. Sometimes DAILY. I don’t want my life to stink. We were created to walk in relationships that will allow us to live out our best life.

Finally, taking out your trash doesn’t mean everything will be fixed. It just means everything doesn’t build up! There will be more. Remember: Trash is normal! You got a little drama in your life? Relationship problems? Spiritual attacks? It’s a good sign you are LIVING! Enjoy the life, take out the trash.

I guess a nap and five minutes was really all I needed…

Starring Courtny


5 Replies to “Talking Straight Trash”

    1. Start by finding someone to release these things to in a safe environment. A therapist, counselor.. someone that has the ability to receive these things and NOT TAKE them on themselves.


  1. It’s a risk…. dare to deepen the relationships.
    Find joy and love in those you can confide in. Find joy in those you may have to create distance as you clean self up
    Powerful message… this is very relatable

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